Wealth, Success, and Love.
A woman came out of her house and saw 3 old men with long white beards sitting in her front yard. She did not recognize them. She said "I don't think I know you, but you must be hungry. Please come in and have something to eat."
"Is the man of the house home?", they asked.
"No", she replied. "He's out."
"Then we cannot come in", they replied.
In the evening when her husband came home, she told him what had happened.
"Go tell them I am home and invite them in!"
The woman went out and invited the men in"
"We do not go into a House together," they replied.
"Why is that?" she asked.
One of the old men explained: "His name is Wealth," he said pointing to one of his friends, and said pointing to another one, "He is Success, and I am Love." Then he added, "Now go in and discuss with your husband which one of us you want in your home."
The woman went in and told her husband what was said. Her husband was overjoyed. "How nice!!", he said. "Since that is the case, let us invite Wealth. Let him come and fill our home with wealth!"
His wife disagreed. "My dear, why don't we invite Success?"
Their daughter-in- law was listening from the other corner of the house. She jumped in with her own suggestion: "Would it not be better to invite Love? Our home will then be filled with love!"
"Let us heed our daughter-in- law's advice," said the husband to his wife.
"Go out and invite Love to be our guest."
The woman went out and asked the 3 old men, "Which one of you is Love? Please come in and be our guest."
Love got up and started walking toward the house. The other 2 also got up and followed him. Surprised, the lady asked Wealth and Success: "I only invited Love, Why are you coming in?"
The old men replied together: "If you had invited Wealth or Success, the other two of us would've stayed out, but since you invited Love, wherever He goes, we go with him. Wherever there is Love, there is also Wealth and Success!!!!! !"
MY WISH FOR YOU...
LOVE.
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Tuesday, June 26, 2012
Why are face-to-face meetings critical to build a partner ecosystem? By Marissa KrupaWhy are face-to-face meetings critical to build a partner ecosystem?
Why are face-to-face meetings critical to build a partner ecosystem?
By Marissa Krupa
Let’s face it, in today’s business world, companies can no longer be individual islands unto themselves carving away in a sea of markets. In order to survive, and thrive, in the current global economy, companies must join forces with other vendors to add value to customers throughout the supply chain.
But, how does a company go about building an ecosystem of vendors it can trust and rely on?
One primary way is to meet with representatives of the partner face-to-face. Just last week, Wind River held a series of sales meetings in Europe that included several hardware and software partners. Consider the benefits from these efforts:
1) Trust is still most often built face-to-face
When it comes to building a partner ecosystem, trust is a key factor for success. Partner organizations are dealing with sensitive issues like passing lead information or customer information back and forth between the field sales forces.
Paramount to building trust within sales organizations of partner companies is to have the field sales reps meet with partner representatives face to face.
2) Clearly communicate the partnership business model
During face-to-face meetings with partners, it’s critical to explain the business model you have with the partner. Whether it’s co-selling, re-selling, or what have you, if your team better understands how they can grow business together with a partner, the more prosperous your partner ecosystem will become.
3) Establish buy-in from sales and marketing management
Understand that sometimes it may require sales and marketing managers to help lead field sales reps to the watering hole to reap the benefits.
During our series of meetings last week, after partners had a chance to present, regional managers made sure to connect several field sales reps with particular partners following the presentations. This kind of direct vouch for the partner’s technology sent a strong message to all the reps. When the managers outline the benefit in joining forces with the partner for joint sales, the reps will soon see the benefits too.
4) Share success stories with co-workers
One of the best ways to build trust amongst sales reps is to highlight a customer success story. We required every partner at our European meetings to highlight a customer story.
This provided two things for our reps to think about: 1) the partner company was able to stand on their own and successfully sell to the same customer, and 2) the Wind River rep who sold to that joint customer now has an edge for future sales by working with the partner.
All it takes is one field sales rep to speak about their success when working jointly with a partner, for others to be encouraged.
5) Building personal relationships can also build intelligence
Gathering intelligence on customers can often be challenging. However, growing personal relationships between your sales team and partner representatives can overcome some of these issues. By creating opportunities for field sales reps to meet partners’ reps face-to-face, tremendous insights about customers can be gained. Simply learning about the organization’s structure and management, or general strategies straight from the source, at a customer location, is invaluable to enhancing the sales effort. It also helps field reps to reach beyond their traditional contacts to gain more new design wins.
Although it can take effort to pull all the appropriately important parties together into one room, the benefits of doing so are tremendous. Just in the two days of partner presentations in last week’s meetings, our field sales teams are already hot on the trail for several new customer opportunities.
Face-to-face meetings help grow the potential for more business and in today’s global economy, it’s worth the effort.
http://blogs.windriver.com/industry_partners/2010/10/why-are-face-to-face-meetings-critical-to-build-a-partner-ecosystem.html
Let’s face it, in today’s business world, companies can no longer be individual islands unto themselves carving away in a sea of markets. In order to survive, and thrive, in the current global economy, companies must join forces with other vendors to add value to customers throughout the supply chain.
But, how does a company go about building an ecosystem of vendors it can trust and rely on?
One primary way is to meet with representatives of the partner face-to-face. Just last week, Wind River held a series of sales meetings in Europe that included several hardware and software partners. Consider the benefits from these efforts:
1) Trust is still most often built face-to-face
When it comes to building a partner ecosystem, trust is a key factor for success. Partner organizations are dealing with sensitive issues like passing lead information or customer information back and forth between the field sales forces.
Paramount to building trust within sales organizations of partner companies is to have the field sales reps meet with partner representatives face to face.
2) Clearly communicate the partnership business model
During face-to-face meetings with partners, it’s critical to explain the business model you have with the partner. Whether it’s co-selling, re-selling, or what have you, if your team better understands how they can grow business together with a partner, the more prosperous your partner ecosystem will become.
3) Establish buy-in from sales and marketing management
Understand that sometimes it may require sales and marketing managers to help lead field sales reps to the watering hole to reap the benefits.
During our series of meetings last week, after partners had a chance to present, regional managers made sure to connect several field sales reps with particular partners following the presentations. This kind of direct vouch for the partner’s technology sent a strong message to all the reps. When the managers outline the benefit in joining forces with the partner for joint sales, the reps will soon see the benefits too.
4) Share success stories with co-workers
One of the best ways to build trust amongst sales reps is to highlight a customer success story. We required every partner at our European meetings to highlight a customer story.
This provided two things for our reps to think about: 1) the partner company was able to stand on their own and successfully sell to the same customer, and 2) the Wind River rep who sold to that joint customer now has an edge for future sales by working with the partner.
All it takes is one field sales rep to speak about their success when working jointly with a partner, for others to be encouraged.
5) Building personal relationships can also build intelligence
Gathering intelligence on customers can often be challenging. However, growing personal relationships between your sales team and partner representatives can overcome some of these issues. By creating opportunities for field sales reps to meet partners’ reps face-to-face, tremendous insights about customers can be gained. Simply learning about the organization’s structure and management, or general strategies straight from the source, at a customer location, is invaluable to enhancing the sales effort. It also helps field reps to reach beyond their traditional contacts to gain more new design wins.
Although it can take effort to pull all the appropriately important parties together into one room, the benefits of doing so are tremendous. Just in the two days of partner presentations in last week’s meetings, our field sales teams are already hot on the trail for several new customer opportunities.
Face-to-face meetings help grow the potential for more business and in today’s global economy, it’s worth the effort.
http://blogs.windriver.com/industry_partners/2010/10/why-are-face-to-face-meetings-critical-to-build-a-partner-ecosystem.html
Saturday, April 7, 2012
Success quotes
The moral flabbiness born of the bitch-goddess SUCCESS. That - with the squalid interpretation put on the word success - is our national disease. ~William James, 11 September 1906
The closer one gets to the top, the more one finds there is no "top." ~Nancy Barcus
Something in human nature causes us to start slacking off at our moment of greatest accomplishment. As you become successful, you will need a great deal of self-discipline not to lose your sense of balance, humility, and commitment. ~Ross Perot
What will matter is not your success but your significance.... ~Michael Josephson, from "What Will Matter" (poem), 2003, whatwillmatter.com
Smarts and action are on the same side of the equation where the sum is success. ~Garrett Hazel
Success is blocked by concentrating on it and planning for it.... Success is shy - it won't come out while you're watching. ~Tennessee Williams
Success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go. ~William Feather
There is only one success - to be able to spend your life in your own way. ~Christopher Morley
How do you achieve success? Well, for one thing, you don't define it before you achieve it. ~Robert Brault, www.robertbrault.com
The toughest thing about success is that you've got to keep on being a success. ~Irving Berlin
Success is simply a matter of luck. Ask any failure. ~Earl Wilson
Success will never be a big step in the future, success is a small step taken just now. ~Jonatan Mårtensson
Some people succeed because they are destined to, but most people succeed because they are determined to. ~Author Unknown
Flaming enthusiasm, backed up by horse sense and persistence, is the quality that most frequently makes for success. ~Dale Carnegie
Always bear in mind that your own resolution to success is more important than any other one thing. ~Abraham Lincoln
Success is getting what you want; happiness is wanting what you get. ~Dale Carnegie
Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome. ~Booker T. Washington
Success is how high you bounce when you hit bottom. ~George Smith Patton
It is wise to keep in mind that no success or failure is necessarily final. ~Author Unknown
How can they say my life is not a success? Have I not for more than sixty years got enough to eat and escaped being eaten? ~Logan Smith
Success and failure. We think of them as opposites, but they're really not. They're companions - the hero and the sidekick. ~Laurence Shames
The man who has done his level best, and who is conscious that he has done his best, is a success, even though the world may write him down as a failure. ~B.C. Forbes
Success is often the result of taking a misstep in the right direction. ~Al Bernstein
The road to success is wherever people need another road. ~Robert Brault, www.robertbrault.com
If at first you don't succeed, skydiving is not for you. ~Arthur McAuliff (Thanks, Fernanda)
If at first you don't succeed, failure may be your style. ~Quentin Crisp
If at first you don't succeed, destroy all evidence that you tried. ~Author Unknown
If at first you don't succeed, try, try again. Then give up. There's no use in being a damn fool about it. ~W.C. Fields
If at first you do succeed - try to hide your astonishment. ~Author Unknown
As you climb the ladder of success, be sure it's leaning against the right building. ~Quoted in P.S. I Love You, compiled by H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
If at first you don't succeed, you're running about average. ~M.H. Alderson
Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm. ~Winston Churchill
What is success? It is a toy balloon among children armed with pins. ~Gene Fowler
We never know, believe me, when we have succeeded best. ~Miguel de Unamuno, Essays and Soliloquies, 1925
Sometimes I worry about being a success in a mediocre world. ~Lily Tomlin
I couldn't wait for success... so I went ahead without it. ~Jonathan Winters
There is no point at which you can say, "Well, I'm successful now. I might as well take a nap." ~Carrie Fisher
Don't aim for success if you want it; just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally. ~David Frost
Some people dream of success... while others wake up and work hard at it. ~Author Unknown
He has achieved success who has lived well, laughed often and loved much; who has gained the respect of intelligent men and the love of little children; who has filled his niche and accomplished his task; who has left the world better than he found it, whether by an improved poppy, a perfect poem, or a rescued soul; who has never lacked appreciation of earth's beauty or failed to express it; who has always looked for the best in others and given them the best he had; whose life was an inspiration; whose memory a benediction. ~Bessie Stanley, 1905, commonly misattributed to Ralph Waldo Emerson
Try to discover
The road to success
And you'll seek but never find,
But blaze your own path
And the road to success
Will trail right behind.
~Robert Brault, www.robertbrault.com
In order to succeed you must fail, so that you know what not to do the next time. ~Anthony J. D'Angelo, The College Blue Book
I dread success. To have succeeded is to have finished one's business on earth, like the male spider, who is killed by the female the moment he has succeeded in courtship. I like a state of continual becoming, with a goal in front and not behind. ~George Bernard Shaw, 28 August 1896
Those who have succeeded at anything and don't mention luck are kidding themselves. ~Larry King
Success has made failures of many men. ~Cindy Adams
Some aspects of success seem rather silly as death approaches. ~Donald A. Miller
Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it. ~Author Unknown
That man is successful who has lived well, laughed often, and loved much, who has gained the respect of the intelligent men and the love of children; who has filled his niche and accomplished his task; who leaves the world better than he found it, whether by an improved poppy, a perfect poem, or a rescued soul; who never lacked appreciation of earth's beauty or failed to express it; who looked for the best in others and gave the best he had. ~Robert Louis Stevenson
The closer one gets to the top, the more one finds there is no "top." ~Nancy Barcus
Something in human nature causes us to start slacking off at our moment of greatest accomplishment. As you become successful, you will need a great deal of self-discipline not to lose your sense of balance, humility, and commitment. ~Ross Perot
What will matter is not your success but your significance.... ~Michael Josephson, from "What Will Matter" (poem), 2003, whatwillmatter.com
Smarts and action are on the same side of the equation where the sum is success. ~Garrett Hazel
Success is blocked by concentrating on it and planning for it.... Success is shy - it won't come out while you're watching. ~Tennessee Williams
Success seems to be largely a matter of hanging on after others have let go. ~William Feather
There is only one success - to be able to spend your life in your own way. ~Christopher Morley
How do you achieve success? Well, for one thing, you don't define it before you achieve it. ~Robert Brault, www.robertbrault.com
The toughest thing about success is that you've got to keep on being a success. ~Irving Berlin
Success is simply a matter of luck. Ask any failure. ~Earl Wilson
Success will never be a big step in the future, success is a small step taken just now. ~Jonatan Mårtensson
Some people succeed because they are destined to, but most people succeed because they are determined to. ~Author Unknown
Flaming enthusiasm, backed up by horse sense and persistence, is the quality that most frequently makes for success. ~Dale Carnegie
Always bear in mind that your own resolution to success is more important than any other one thing. ~Abraham Lincoln
Success is getting what you want; happiness is wanting what you get. ~Dale Carnegie
Success is to be measured not so much by the position that one has reached in life as by the obstacles which he has overcome. ~Booker T. Washington
Success is how high you bounce when you hit bottom. ~George Smith Patton
It is wise to keep in mind that no success or failure is necessarily final. ~Author Unknown
How can they say my life is not a success? Have I not for more than sixty years got enough to eat and escaped being eaten? ~Logan Smith
Success and failure. We think of them as opposites, but they're really not. They're companions - the hero and the sidekick. ~Laurence Shames
The man who has done his level best, and who is conscious that he has done his best, is a success, even though the world may write him down as a failure. ~B.C. Forbes
Success is often the result of taking a misstep in the right direction. ~Al Bernstein
The road to success is wherever people need another road. ~Robert Brault, www.robertbrault.com
If at first you don't succeed, skydiving is not for you. ~Arthur McAuliff (Thanks, Fernanda)
If at first you don't succeed, failure may be your style. ~Quentin Crisp
If at first you don't succeed, destroy all evidence that you tried. ~Author Unknown
If at first you don't succeed, try, try again. Then give up. There's no use in being a damn fool about it. ~W.C. Fields
If at first you do succeed - try to hide your astonishment. ~Author Unknown
As you climb the ladder of success, be sure it's leaning against the right building. ~Quoted in P.S. I Love You, compiled by H. Jackson Brown, Jr.
If at first you don't succeed, you're running about average. ~M.H. Alderson
Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm. ~Winston Churchill
What is success? It is a toy balloon among children armed with pins. ~Gene Fowler
We never know, believe me, when we have succeeded best. ~Miguel de Unamuno, Essays and Soliloquies, 1925
Sometimes I worry about being a success in a mediocre world. ~Lily Tomlin
I couldn't wait for success... so I went ahead without it. ~Jonathan Winters
There is no point at which you can say, "Well, I'm successful now. I might as well take a nap." ~Carrie Fisher
Don't aim for success if you want it; just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally. ~David Frost
Some people dream of success... while others wake up and work hard at it. ~Author Unknown
He has achieved success who has lived well, laughed often and loved much; who has gained the respect of intelligent men and the love of little children; who has filled his niche and accomplished his task; who has left the world better than he found it, whether by an improved poppy, a perfect poem, or a rescued soul; who has never lacked appreciation of earth's beauty or failed to express it; who has always looked for the best in others and given them the best he had; whose life was an inspiration; whose memory a benediction. ~Bessie Stanley, 1905, commonly misattributed to Ralph Waldo Emerson
Try to discover
The road to success
And you'll seek but never find,
But blaze your own path
And the road to success
Will trail right behind.
~Robert Brault, www.robertbrault.com
In order to succeed you must fail, so that you know what not to do the next time. ~Anthony J. D'Angelo, The College Blue Book
I dread success. To have succeeded is to have finished one's business on earth, like the male spider, who is killed by the female the moment he has succeeded in courtship. I like a state of continual becoming, with a goal in front and not behind. ~George Bernard Shaw, 28 August 1896
Those who have succeeded at anything and don't mention luck are kidding themselves. ~Larry King
Success has made failures of many men. ~Cindy Adams
Some aspects of success seem rather silly as death approaches. ~Donald A. Miller
Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it. ~Author Unknown
That man is successful who has lived well, laughed often, and loved much, who has gained the respect of the intelligent men and the love of children; who has filled his niche and accomplished his task; who leaves the world better than he found it, whether by an improved poppy, a perfect poem, or a rescued soul; who never lacked appreciation of earth's beauty or failed to express it; who looked for the best in others and gave the best he had. ~Robert Louis Stevenson
Sunday, December 12, 2010
Achieving Your Dreams And Goals
Achieving Your Dreams And Goals
Turning dreams into reality
By Remez Sasson
Achieving your dreams and goals depends on several factors:
1. You should have a specific goal.
2. You have to be sure that you really want to achieve your goal.
3. You need to have a clear mental image of your goal.
4. You need a strong desire.
5. You need to disregard and reject doubts and thoughts about failure.
6. Show confidence and faith and persevere until you gain success
How many people fulfill all the above-mentioned requirements? Just a few! Most people do not know that there are some laws governing success, which should be followed.
It is so easy and simple to daydream and then say, "Well it is just a daydream. It will never come true". It is so easy to give up due to lack of faith.
Achieving your goals shouldn't be a tough ordeal. In fact, it can be fun and pleasure, if you go in the right way. It is not hard physical work that brings success. Great success does not require hard physical labor. In fact, you need to do mental work.
Visualization and repeating affirmations make up this mental work, and are important stepping stones to achieving success. When you visualize and affirm you focus and channel your energies toward your goal. Your mind is geared toward finding solutions to bring your goal into manifestation.
By thinking in a positive manner on your goal, and not letting any doubts enter your mind, your intuition starts working, you see opportunities, and you have energy at your disposal to follow your goals and dreams.
Some people listen to subliminal messages, for programming their minds for success. There are many CD's available today, which implant subliminal messages into the mind, so as to activate its power. Some people prefer to use them, because this does not require any effort on their part. It is said that these subliminal messages, which go straight to the subconscious mind, bring faster results. Maybe they do, but then you have no control on what goes into your mind.
When you visualize and affirm your goals, you gain much more then just programming your mind passively with subliminal messages. The attention, intention and energy you channel toward visualizing and affirming, develop in you inner strength, concentration, willpower and self-discipline. You actively develop your inner powers.
One of the advantages of visualization and affirmations is that you can use them wherever you are, at any time, without the necessity of any external instruments. All you need is your mind.
Success appears in various ways, sometimes in a miraculous way, sometimes in an ordinary way, and sometimes through an opportunity that appears. A door opens, but you have to get in and take advantage of the opportunity.
Correctly following these methods will bring you more ambition, inspiration and motivation, which would enhance your chances of success.
Remember, there are big goals and there are many small daily goals, which visualization and affirmations can make them easier and faster to achieve.
People often erroneously think that goals mean only big goals, such as:
becoming wealthy,
getting an expensive car,
possessing a big house with a swimming pool,
building a very successful business.
The truth is that the following are no less important goals:
getting to work on time,
spending more time with the family,
reading a book,
going to see a movie,
eating less.
How do you visualize and affirm?
Are there any special rules and instructions?
Yes, there are!
Like any other subject, if you want to do it right you need to study it right. It is simple and easy to learn to achieve success through visualization and affirmations. Anyone can learn to use them right. Browse the website, and you will find a lot of practical and useful information.
http://www.successconsciousness.com/achieving_your_goals.htm
Turning dreams into reality
By Remez Sasson
Achieving your dreams and goals depends on several factors:
1. You should have a specific goal.
2. You have to be sure that you really want to achieve your goal.
3. You need to have a clear mental image of your goal.
4. You need a strong desire.
5. You need to disregard and reject doubts and thoughts about failure.
6. Show confidence and faith and persevere until you gain success
How many people fulfill all the above-mentioned requirements? Just a few! Most people do not know that there are some laws governing success, which should be followed.
It is so easy and simple to daydream and then say, "Well it is just a daydream. It will never come true". It is so easy to give up due to lack of faith.
Achieving your goals shouldn't be a tough ordeal. In fact, it can be fun and pleasure, if you go in the right way. It is not hard physical work that brings success. Great success does not require hard physical labor. In fact, you need to do mental work.
Visualization and repeating affirmations make up this mental work, and are important stepping stones to achieving success. When you visualize and affirm you focus and channel your energies toward your goal. Your mind is geared toward finding solutions to bring your goal into manifestation.
By thinking in a positive manner on your goal, and not letting any doubts enter your mind, your intuition starts working, you see opportunities, and you have energy at your disposal to follow your goals and dreams.
Some people listen to subliminal messages, for programming their minds for success. There are many CD's available today, which implant subliminal messages into the mind, so as to activate its power. Some people prefer to use them, because this does not require any effort on their part. It is said that these subliminal messages, which go straight to the subconscious mind, bring faster results. Maybe they do, but then you have no control on what goes into your mind.
When you visualize and affirm your goals, you gain much more then just programming your mind passively with subliminal messages. The attention, intention and energy you channel toward visualizing and affirming, develop in you inner strength, concentration, willpower and self-discipline. You actively develop your inner powers.
One of the advantages of visualization and affirmations is that you can use them wherever you are, at any time, without the necessity of any external instruments. All you need is your mind.
Success appears in various ways, sometimes in a miraculous way, sometimes in an ordinary way, and sometimes through an opportunity that appears. A door opens, but you have to get in and take advantage of the opportunity.
Correctly following these methods will bring you more ambition, inspiration and motivation, which would enhance your chances of success.
Remember, there are big goals and there are many small daily goals, which visualization and affirmations can make them easier and faster to achieve.
People often erroneously think that goals mean only big goals, such as:
becoming wealthy,
getting an expensive car,
possessing a big house with a swimming pool,
building a very successful business.
The truth is that the following are no less important goals:
getting to work on time,
spending more time with the family,
reading a book,
going to see a movie,
eating less.
How do you visualize and affirm?
Are there any special rules and instructions?
Yes, there are!
Like any other subject, if you want to do it right you need to study it right. It is simple and easy to learn to achieve success through visualization and affirmations. Anyone can learn to use them right. Browse the website, and you will find a lot of practical and useful information.
http://www.successconsciousness.com/achieving_your_goals.htm
Saturday, December 4, 2010
6 Reasons To Put Love Before Your Career
6 Reasons To Put Love Before Your Career
One man's take on having it all: career, love, family, and success.
By Brian Fairbanks May 20, 2010
Back in February, YourTango contributor John Bowe posted a piece called "Work vs. Love: A Man's Case for Putting Work First," arguing that it's best for us all to go solo until we've made a living, regardless of how it hurts our romantic prospects in the meantime.
As a fellow (male) writer, I'd like to contend that he's dead wrong. Love doesn't have to interfere with your career; it can actually support it. YourTango reader BookMama asked Bowe, "What if you have more than one dream in life: a partner who loves you, children, and writing or whatever your career is?" My answer would be: Pursue them all, all at once. Here's why:
1. Relationships don't interfere with your career; dating does
In my experience, it's dating that gets in the way of writers and other ambitious people. Dating can become a serious time suck if you're doing it remotely right and going out at least once a week. The phone calls, the IMs, the discussions with friends—it all adds up to a good deal of work and greatly reduces the ability for career people to focus on their professional lives.
Personally, getting past the constant going-out-and-meeting-people and arriving at the one-person-only relationship phase is integral to my concentration and momentum as a writer.
The bottom line is, if someone truly cares for you, they will understand when your projects are more important than your plans to take them to tango class. (A simple "The money I'm making from this design will help pay for next semester lessons, I promise" certainly helps.) The New Way To Have It All: First Baby, Then Love
2. Living with someone and being creative is better than living alone and being creative
Picture this scenario: you're working on a long-term project that's taking up all your time and energy. You have no significant other at the time and are too busy to date. You sink into depression and become easily distracted while the deadline looms. If you had a boyfriend who came over and brought you takeout, wouldn't that help turn things around?
Your girlfriend or boyfriend can talk you through tough creative patches or keep on your case to apply for a fellowship you're being pessimistic about. Sure, building a career and a marriage ended in disastrous results for greats like Sylvia Plath and Norman Mailer, but it wasn't the writing that caused those relationships to collapse. If you are going to fall in love, why hold back in favor of your career when your Facebook page is about to have its first fan?
3. Marriage won't distract you
The main issue I have with Bowe's perspective is the idea that a dream would have to be shoved aside to let someone else join the team. If a marriage involving a creative person is going to work, both partners need to support—not hinder—each other. The couples whose dreams of glory fall by the wayside are probably made up of people who would have given up sooner or later anyway.
As for Bowe's worry that marriage equals having kids, who are obviously going to greatly diminish your "me" time, I've found that ambitious people tend to find a way to get things done between diapers or parent-teacher conferences; they're going to make it no matter what "gets in the way." Why I Chose To Be Unmarried And Childless
4. There's a reason "richer or poorer" is in those marriage vows
Considering the stiff competition and difficulty of having long-term success in artistic careers, it's good to remember that, like many of the best things in life, love isn't about money. It's about sticking with people, regardless of whether they ever make it, and being grateful that at least you're together and working through it.
5. Do we really have a choice?
Bowe says he recently fell in love for the first time in 15 years. I want to know: Would he have changed his views on love vs. career if he had met someone undeniably special along the way, or if he hadn't lucked into love now that he's decided he's ready?
To look at it another way, everyone falls into a Jennifer Aniston-sized love rut once in a while, and that is the time to focus on other things like family, the debt situation, and maybe changing jobs or cities. But to give up entirely on dating and focusing only on the career until you're 45—is that even possible? Love doesn't care if you're working on a novel or done with a screenplay and now looking for love. You can't force it, so there's no point in saying, "I'm just going to pretend not to have feelings until I'm well-established."
6. Long-term outlook
I agree with Bowe that it's extremely difficult to create a career as an artist with kids—especially without the dough to go out and schmooze while Mary Poppins does the tutoring. In fact, it's hard enough to make a living as a writer being single and not dating at all. But even if he's right, if being alone does make it easier—is that what we really want? To wake up at 45 with successful careers after ten or twenty years of being alone? I, for one, would rather strive for balance. And then if I do achieve success, there will be someone there to celebrate with.
http://www.yourtango.com/201069923/6-reasons-put-love-before-career/page/3
One man's take on having it all: career, love, family, and success.
By Brian Fairbanks May 20, 2010
Back in February, YourTango contributor John Bowe posted a piece called "Work vs. Love: A Man's Case for Putting Work First," arguing that it's best for us all to go solo until we've made a living, regardless of how it hurts our romantic prospects in the meantime.
As a fellow (male) writer, I'd like to contend that he's dead wrong. Love doesn't have to interfere with your career; it can actually support it. YourTango reader BookMama asked Bowe, "What if you have more than one dream in life: a partner who loves you, children, and writing or whatever your career is?" My answer would be: Pursue them all, all at once. Here's why:
1. Relationships don't interfere with your career; dating does
In my experience, it's dating that gets in the way of writers and other ambitious people. Dating can become a serious time suck if you're doing it remotely right and going out at least once a week. The phone calls, the IMs, the discussions with friends—it all adds up to a good deal of work and greatly reduces the ability for career people to focus on their professional lives.
Personally, getting past the constant going-out-and-meeting-people and arriving at the one-person-only relationship phase is integral to my concentration and momentum as a writer.
The bottom line is, if someone truly cares for you, they will understand when your projects are more important than your plans to take them to tango class. (A simple "The money I'm making from this design will help pay for next semester lessons, I promise" certainly helps.) The New Way To Have It All: First Baby, Then Love
2. Living with someone and being creative is better than living alone and being creative
Picture this scenario: you're working on a long-term project that's taking up all your time and energy. You have no significant other at the time and are too busy to date. You sink into depression and become easily distracted while the deadline looms. If you had a boyfriend who came over and brought you takeout, wouldn't that help turn things around?
Your girlfriend or boyfriend can talk you through tough creative patches or keep on your case to apply for a fellowship you're being pessimistic about. Sure, building a career and a marriage ended in disastrous results for greats like Sylvia Plath and Norman Mailer, but it wasn't the writing that caused those relationships to collapse. If you are going to fall in love, why hold back in favor of your career when your Facebook page is about to have its first fan?
3. Marriage won't distract you
The main issue I have with Bowe's perspective is the idea that a dream would have to be shoved aside to let someone else join the team. If a marriage involving a creative person is going to work, both partners need to support—not hinder—each other. The couples whose dreams of glory fall by the wayside are probably made up of people who would have given up sooner or later anyway.
As for Bowe's worry that marriage equals having kids, who are obviously going to greatly diminish your "me" time, I've found that ambitious people tend to find a way to get things done between diapers or parent-teacher conferences; they're going to make it no matter what "gets in the way." Why I Chose To Be Unmarried And Childless
4. There's a reason "richer or poorer" is in those marriage vows
Considering the stiff competition and difficulty of having long-term success in artistic careers, it's good to remember that, like many of the best things in life, love isn't about money. It's about sticking with people, regardless of whether they ever make it, and being grateful that at least you're together and working through it.
5. Do we really have a choice?
Bowe says he recently fell in love for the first time in 15 years. I want to know: Would he have changed his views on love vs. career if he had met someone undeniably special along the way, or if he hadn't lucked into love now that he's decided he's ready?
To look at it another way, everyone falls into a Jennifer Aniston-sized love rut once in a while, and that is the time to focus on other things like family, the debt situation, and maybe changing jobs or cities. But to give up entirely on dating and focusing only on the career until you're 45—is that even possible? Love doesn't care if you're working on a novel or done with a screenplay and now looking for love. You can't force it, so there's no point in saying, "I'm just going to pretend not to have feelings until I'm well-established."
6. Long-term outlook
I agree with Bowe that it's extremely difficult to create a career as an artist with kids—especially without the dough to go out and schmooze while Mary Poppins does the tutoring. In fact, it's hard enough to make a living as a writer being single and not dating at all. But even if he's right, if being alone does make it easier—is that what we really want? To wake up at 45 with successful careers after ten or twenty years of being alone? I, for one, would rather strive for balance. And then if I do achieve success, there will be someone there to celebrate with.
http://www.yourtango.com/201069923/6-reasons-put-love-before-career/page/3
Thursday, December 2, 2010
Know How to Get Rich - The Considerations You Have to Look Into in Order to Build Wealth
Know How to Get Rich - The Considerations You Have to Look Into in Order to Build Wealth
By Dan Cavalli
If you want to know how to build wealth, you have to understand that it is not an easy undertaking. While a lot of people are thinking that they will get rich, only a few of those who have this line of thinking are actually able to create wealth. The reason for this is simple. It is that while a lot of individuals have the traits to help them build wealth substantially, they fail to recognize several considerations that will allow them to get there.
What are the things that you have to be mindful of in order to learn how to build wealth? Here are some of the considerations that you may want to look into in order to get rich.
1. What are the things that you like doing?
If you will disregard the things that you like to do, you may be missing out on the opportunity to perform well and succeed in every aspect of the job. It will be better to look for things that you are interested in and pursue these possibilities knowing that you can do them well. You will be able to get the financial stability that you wish to have with a career that fulfills you as well as supports you.
2. What are the things you can do well?
It is also a must to look on your personal capabilities before creating a detailed plan on how to create wealth. You will be able to use your innate skills in accomplishing your objectives and will find ease in earning a living with the knowledge that you are somewhat good in whatever it is that you have to do.
3. What are the careers that pay more than the others?
As you consider the things that you are passionate and interested about, you also have to look for a relevant career that pays well. This is of utmost importance because you simply can't expect to build wealth without a steady source of income. You also have to make sure that the job you will be relying on will give you the ability to provide for your various necessities.
4. What are the requirements that will help you get there?
There will be requisites that you will need to have before you will be qualified for the career that you want to pursue. Because of this, you have to learn more about these qualifications to ensure that you will be taken in for the opportunity.
Once you have identified the things that will help you in your quest towards building wealth, you will have a clearer outlook on how to achieve your aspirations. You will also realize that creating wealth can be done without compromising your personal happiness and that you can get rich using your own talents and capabilities. This will enable you to look more positively in the things that you have to do. This will drive you to be motivated to pursue the getting rich part with the appropriate mindset and the right tools.
With a proper way of seeing the numerous considerations you have to take into account on how to build wealth, you will be able to reach your goals and get rich. By looking at the things that are your strengths in pursuing a comfortable life, you will be able to make the right decisions and follow your success in the best way that you can.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Dan_Cavalli
By Dan Cavalli
If you want to know how to build wealth, you have to understand that it is not an easy undertaking. While a lot of people are thinking that they will get rich, only a few of those who have this line of thinking are actually able to create wealth. The reason for this is simple. It is that while a lot of individuals have the traits to help them build wealth substantially, they fail to recognize several considerations that will allow them to get there.
What are the things that you have to be mindful of in order to learn how to build wealth? Here are some of the considerations that you may want to look into in order to get rich.
1. What are the things that you like doing?
If you will disregard the things that you like to do, you may be missing out on the opportunity to perform well and succeed in every aspect of the job. It will be better to look for things that you are interested in and pursue these possibilities knowing that you can do them well. You will be able to get the financial stability that you wish to have with a career that fulfills you as well as supports you.
2. What are the things you can do well?
It is also a must to look on your personal capabilities before creating a detailed plan on how to create wealth. You will be able to use your innate skills in accomplishing your objectives and will find ease in earning a living with the knowledge that you are somewhat good in whatever it is that you have to do.
3. What are the careers that pay more than the others?
As you consider the things that you are passionate and interested about, you also have to look for a relevant career that pays well. This is of utmost importance because you simply can't expect to build wealth without a steady source of income. You also have to make sure that the job you will be relying on will give you the ability to provide for your various necessities.
4. What are the requirements that will help you get there?
There will be requisites that you will need to have before you will be qualified for the career that you want to pursue. Because of this, you have to learn more about these qualifications to ensure that you will be taken in for the opportunity.
Once you have identified the things that will help you in your quest towards building wealth, you will have a clearer outlook on how to achieve your aspirations. You will also realize that creating wealth can be done without compromising your personal happiness and that you can get rich using your own talents and capabilities. This will enable you to look more positively in the things that you have to do. This will drive you to be motivated to pursue the getting rich part with the appropriate mindset and the right tools.
With a proper way of seeing the numerous considerations you have to take into account on how to build wealth, you will be able to reach your goals and get rich. By looking at the things that are your strengths in pursuing a comfortable life, you will be able to make the right decisions and follow your success in the best way that you can.
Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Dan_Cavalli
Sunday, August 22, 2010
Love Wealth Success
Love Wealth Success
A woman came out of her house and saw 3 old men with long white beards sitting in her front yard. She did not recognize them. She said "I don't think I know you, but you must be hungry. Please come in and have something to eat."
"Is the man of the house home?", they asked.
"No", she replied. "He's out."
"Then we cannot come in", they replied.
In the evening when her husband came home, she told him what had happened.
"Go tell them I am home and invite them in!"
The woman went out and invited the men in"
"We do not go into a House together," they replied.
"Why is that?" she asked.
One of the old men explained: "His name is Wealth," he said pointing to one of his friends, and said pointing to another one, "He is Success, and I am Love." Then he added, "Now go in and discuss with your husband which one of us you want in your home."
The woman went in and told her husband what was said. Her husband was overjoyed. "How nice!!", he said. "Since that is the case, let us invite Wealth. Let him come and fill our home with wealth!"
His wife disagreed. "My dear, why don't we invite Success?"
Their daughter was listening from the other corner of the house. She jumped in with her own suggestion: "Would it not be better to invite Love? Our home will then be filled with love!"
"Let us heed our daughter's advice," said the husband to his wife.
"Go out and invite Love to be our guest."
The woman went out and asked the 3 old men, "Which one of you is Love? Please come in and be our guest."
Love got up and started walking toward the house. The other 2 also got up and followed him. Surprised, the lady asked Wealth and Success: "I only invited Love, Why are you coming in?"
The old men replied together: "If you had invited Wealth or Success, the other two of us would've stayed out, but since you invited Love, wherever He goes, we go with him. Wherever there is Love, there is also Wealth and Success!!!!!!"
A woman came out of her house and saw 3 old men with long white beards sitting in her front yard. She did not recognize them. She said "I don't think I know you, but you must be hungry. Please come in and have something to eat."
"Is the man of the house home?", they asked.
"No", she replied. "He's out."
"Then we cannot come in", they replied.
In the evening when her husband came home, she told him what had happened.
"Go tell them I am home and invite them in!"
The woman went out and invited the men in"
"We do not go into a House together," they replied.
"Why is that?" she asked.
One of the old men explained: "His name is Wealth," he said pointing to one of his friends, and said pointing to another one, "He is Success, and I am Love." Then he added, "Now go in and discuss with your husband which one of us you want in your home."
The woman went in and told her husband what was said. Her husband was overjoyed. "How nice!!", he said. "Since that is the case, let us invite Wealth. Let him come and fill our home with wealth!"
His wife disagreed. "My dear, why don't we invite Success?"
Their daughter was listening from the other corner of the house. She jumped in with her own suggestion: "Would it not be better to invite Love? Our home will then be filled with love!"
"Let us heed our daughter's advice," said the husband to his wife.
"Go out and invite Love to be our guest."
The woman went out and asked the 3 old men, "Which one of you is Love? Please come in and be our guest."
Love got up and started walking toward the house. The other 2 also got up and followed him. Surprised, the lady asked Wealth and Success: "I only invited Love, Why are you coming in?"
The old men replied together: "If you had invited Wealth or Success, the other two of us would've stayed out, but since you invited Love, wherever He goes, we go with him. Wherever there is Love, there is also Wealth and Success!!!!!!"
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